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Updated: Aug 29

What do you see when you look in the mirror? Do you like what you see? Or on the contrary, Do you avoid it? what would you think if I told you that no matter how much you avoid looking in the mirror, you, subconsciously do it all the time? Let's now define which mirror we are talking about. The mirror I want to talk to you about today is the one that the “other" reflects, and I will call "other" to anyone who crosses your path; whether it is your partner, your son, your boss, your brother, your neighbor, and even your pet. Quantum physics shows that beyond everything tangible and material there is energy. It is already proven that all beings on this planet are energy, Nikola Tesla said: "If you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration." So let's get back to the mirror, if human beings are energy, and this energy is continuous moving information that vibrates at a particular frequency, that means we constantly attract frequencies similar to ours, right? So the people and situations you encounter on a daily basis are not the result of a coincidence. And here is where our mirrors appear. There is a phrase that I love and it says: "your judgments are your confessions”, every time we make a judgment towards another person, it speaks more about ourselves than about the other person. Projection is one of the mechanisms that human beings use to deal with those things that are difficult to face consciously. It would probably be easier to talk about how selfish a person is, and constantly criticize him/her when deep down, the same judgement could be speaking about how selfish the person, who is making the judgment, really is towards himself/herself.

It is important to clarify that it is totally valid to have opinions; whether or not you may agree with a particular topic. But when your reaction to a specific situation or to a person’s behavior is exaggerated, and you get distressed, angry, annoyed, etc, right there you can find a treasure to work on your personal growth. An example could be the woman who is outraged to see another woman dressed in sensual clothes and showing parts of her body. The first woman begins to criticize the second one and probably throws a look of disapproval at her. Later, when she gets home, she might continue talking about the woman and telling her husband how outrageous this experience was. In this example, it is likely that the woman who is making the judgment would subconsciously want to dress sensually but does not dare to do so.

Likewise, the other person also could reflect those qualities that I think I don't have. For example, when I have an enormous admiration for someone and tell him/her how intelligent he/she is, it is likely that it’s hard for me to accept that I am intelligent or, I might be judging myself as someone who is not.

So a good rule of thumb if you want to use the mirror technique, is to pay attention to your emotions and thoughts; especially when you have one of those intense ones and you keep thinking about the situation over and over again. In that moment you can find a treasure. Ask yourself questions, such as “What do I need to learn from this? What is this emotion trying to tell me? Also, find the judgment you have towards the other, imagine the other person in front of you, and for a moment switch his/her head for yours, in that instant the mirror will only reflect your own image.


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